tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5728697892979323999.post2456713896964619485..comments2023-08-07T03:48:26.520-07:00Comments on Dave's Buttoned-Up Mind: The Hug EffectDavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00722667383694168074noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5728697892979323999.post-77974325769186440132012-05-17T07:39:52.794-07:002012-05-17T07:39:52.794-07:00Hi Raquel!!!
I have to say that there's only ...Hi Raquel!!!<br /><br />I have to say that there's only been one female friend who has been a "kisser" like that, but I like that too!<br /><br />I totally understand about being uncomfortable hugging someone you don't know well. I think it's just a personal thing that you know when the time is right. Of course, that first hug can be a bit awkward, because neither one of you is sure the other one wants one. But after that? Awesomeness. :)<br /><br />Thanks for your comment!Davehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722667383694168074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5728697892979323999.post-10511193477302840592012-05-16T22:35:28.557-07:002012-05-16T22:35:28.557-07:00Interesting blog. My family is a group of huggers....Interesting blog. My family is a group of huggers. We hug and say I love you every time we part, simply because we know tomorrow isn't guaranteed :) <br /><br />I would say most of my close friends are huggers as well. Gender makes no difference- we usually hug hello & good bye. I also have certain friends who are kissers. We peck along with the hug! <br /><br />I am NOT one of those people who hugs everybody and quite frankly, I am uncomfortable hugging someone I do not know well. And you are right. There is a deeper level of intimacy & closeness with the people I never question about hugging. In my opinion, that can never be a bad thing!Raquel Speetzennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5728697892979323999.post-76127690732824357832012-05-14T10:03:13.906-07:002012-05-14T10:03:13.906-07:00Cool! Thank you for doing that. I'll keep an e...Cool! Thank you for doing that. I'll keep an eye out.<br /><br />This and my "Love Analytics" post from last week sometime are, in a way, related. And probably the ones I'm most proud of since I came back to blogging.Davehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722667383694168074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5728697892979323999.post-7340566572068564592012-05-14T09:47:41.286-07:002012-05-14T09:47:41.286-07:00Btw, I reposted on my FB wall, Dave. This was def...Btw, I reposted on my FB wall, Dave. This was definitely a post worth resharing, so I hope you get some visits as a result! :)Healing Morninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03236609802381940498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5728697892979323999.post-60715276851718030312012-05-14T07:45:55.506-07:002012-05-14T07:45:55.506-07:00Aww, thanks, Mom. I probably will get the usual nu...Aww, thanks, Mom. I probably will get the usual number of comments, but I appreciate the kind words. :)<br /><br />Dawnie, I knew you'd love this post, yes indeed. :)<br /><br />I totally agree with you on the fact that they should be currency!!! "That muffin will cost you 1.5 hugs." :)<br /><br />No, the fact that you're a touchy person does not surprise me in the least. I feel "touched" every time I read a comment or post from you. I just picture you saying whatever I'm reading, and reaching over to touch the arm or shoulder.<br /><br />I left out the health benefits partially because I wanted to stay in the emotional realm and partially because it was a Sunday morning and I didn't want to do research. :) I knew it had good physical health effects too, so thank you for mentioning them here.<br /><br />I think we're all hug deficient, at least to some extent. And I'm envious of those who aren't. We will have to rectify that some day. :)<br /><br />Thanks for the great comment, Dawnie!Davehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722667383694168074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5728697892979323999.post-30296009848567905012012-05-14T06:56:40.214-07:002012-05-14T06:56:40.214-07:00Ohhh, you knew I'd be a fan of this one! Yes, ...Ohhh, you knew I'd be a fan of this one! Yes, I'm one of those friends of yours who will hug you the first time we lay eyes on one another, which I am determined is going to happen. In my family, from what I gather, hugging didn't always happen with the fervor we indulge in now. When I was very small, we had a slew of deaths of very vital, key people in our family in the space of 2 years. THAT was the pivotal point where my Mom says everyone began to hug Hello and Goodbye. <br /><br />You know how excited I get when my family reunion rolls around, because it means I will get a ton of hugs for 3-4 days straight! My heart gets polished and glowy and my spirit is all recharged for the rest of the year. I've said it many times before and will continue to say it: Hugs should be a form of World Currency. We would have a lot less problems if they were.<br /><br />That being said, I do know many people think and feel differently. (Marticus is one of them!) And I respect their boundaries, most of the time. If they won't let me hug them, then I usually make do with a touch on the arm, because yes, I'm a touchy person like you mentioned. This comes as no surprise to you, I'm sure. :)<br /><br />You left out the fact that hugs are GOOD for us on a physiological/medical level. They lower heartrate, lower blood pressure, boost the immune system, increase blood flow and dilate blood vessels. The heart increases its pumping of oxygenated blood for about 28 minutes after a hug (a good one - not the one armed air pat kind), thus, sending vital nutrients to the whole body. Oxytocin is released along with serotonin in the brain when we're hugged. It is suggested that for general good health, we get 3-5 hugs daily; optimum health, 5-10 hugs daily. Sadly, most of us are in the deficit. I know I am, and I'm not happy about it! <br /><br />Great article, Dave. Hugs to you, buddy, of the virtual kind, until we get around to the in person version. :)<br /><br />- DawnieHealing Morninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03236609802381940498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5728697892979323999.post-14965447045882459512012-05-13T15:01:31.493-07:002012-05-13T15:01:31.493-07:00I really loved this blog. It kind of made me cry t...I really loved this blog. It kind of made me cry though. I feel bad that when you are upset or stressed & could use a hug I'm not there to give it to you. I hope you know that any time you need a hug from Mom I am sending you one. That's what moms are for, to make our kids feel better. I'm always there for you whenever you need me. You should get lots of comments on this one. LOVE YOUBarb Roynoreply@blogger.com